“Is there a such thing as a gay masculist?”
That is a rare question, in a world overflowing with questions.
The answer to that question is even rarer. I have only spoken to anonymous people
online about this—a luxury and a curse in our modern world—to speak with
whomever, whenever, wherever, without actually meeting said person in real
life.
The “answer” and explanation to this question is
surprisingly mundane: gay men who are sincerely concerned with all men’s issues—are
indeed rare.
First off, we generally do not experience marriage and having
children with women, like straight men. The legal turmoil that ensues after
divorce is often the catapult for men to realize they are being discriminated
against solely because of gender. Just a quick glance through the influx of
“Men’s Rights” groups online—and you will get a strong idea that a common drive
behind these men’s feelings and endeavors, is legal justice—and rightfully so. The
truth that some gay men have indeed married women and divorced them, would
present an interesting group to query. Unfortunately, I have not spoken to anyone
who fits into this group yet.
Secondly, gay men as a group, belong to a “minority”, and
therefore, have historically identifed more, with other “minorities”—including
women. On top of this, gay men simply relate to women more, on a cultural and social level—feeling
acceptance and similarity in interests with them. Much more than say—towards
their straight male counterparts. It is not a stereotype—just a common occurrence.
So there you have it. That’s the two-part answer. Which can
be viewed as a springboard for another rare question: Which came first: the Man
or the Gay? Ha, ha. In other words: who or what should gay men identify with
more?
Personally, I find it odd how gay men deeply love MEN on a
platonic, sexual and romantic level, and yet feel no desire to advocate on
behalf of our Male Species. Don’t
we want to see our gender thrive, so that we can feel pride, admiration and
respect for them? I think (many?) gay men view other men in a way that is similar
to how chauvinist STRAIGHT men view women: they love them for their BODIES, and
objectify them for their primal, sensual pleasures—but they could care LESS
about what’s going on between the (sex object)’s ears, or their psychological
well-being. Gay men are, after all, MEN. And when it comes to objectifying
others, gay men are just as guilty as the straight guys—maybe worse.
To dig deeper too: On another note, I have (occasionally)
felt an unnamed guilt and remorse, for being a man in today’s world who desires
other MEN, because in our world it is subliminally driven into us: “Woman =
Good, Man = Bad”. Bull crap, for sure. But with that mentality, men like me are
quite honestly on the fringes of society. We WANT the “Bad” thing. What kind of
message is that sending to all the gay men in the world who are born this way?
What we worship and ache for is “BAD”, ugly, evil, wrong, gross? Well, the
power of shere desire is quite awesome, because honestly? We still want IT. We
still want MEN. To go one more step further, I actually see the “plus” side (if
there IS one) of men being relegated to the secondary sex, in Western society
today. It’s only when a group of people are marginalized and treated as a “minority”,
that they can take real risks and challenge themselves. I have high hopes for
Men. The worst is yet to come (many people still can’t acknowledge that we’ve
been institutionally marginalized). But there’s always light at the end of the
tunnel. And through thousands of years, it’s Men who have led, fought, and
thought our way out of our past and into the future. It’s in all of us, guys.
We’re just taught to hide it, at the expense of women. See how much it’s been
driven into us?
As someone who admires the physical and spiritual essence of
the human male very deeply, I want nothing more than to see men being depicted
as the gods, heroes, and gifts from nature that they are. I’m like that
straight guy who worships women so much, he practically betrays his male gender
by holding up women as “Superior”. Dontcha hate guys like that? I’m not like
that. I love men because they’re men, not because I compare them to the other
sex. I’m also not like those lesbian feminazi’s (shudder); the sole bane of
their existence is to spite the opposite sex. I mean—how low do they have to
be, that their entire self-worth is based on how much they defame another group
of people (Men)? To be honest, I don’t even think about what I dislike about women,
or what their flaws are, (unless they’re crying false accusations of sexism,
and in that case they can eat shit)—because I’m too busy loving what I love. I
am a man, and I hold up men as: a miracle of Nature.
At our best, Men are vital, beautiful and amazing. Scientifically,
our intelligence is equal to women, but our gender produces more geniuses. A
look at all our humanity has accomplished then and now, is proof enough of the
genius of men. We are more prone to risk-taking, which is vital to progress.
Physically, our bodies are supple and strong, meant to
protect others and produce work. It is also quite beautiful—angular jaws, broad
shoulders, strong but gentle hands, slim hips and buttocks, with hard and
muscular legs. The hair on our bodies provide a complimentary texture to the
opposite gender: the hair on forearms, legs, and chest can be silky or coarse—adding
sensation to touch. Our orgasms can be viewed as simpler and less intense than
women—but they are far more frequent and our desires are often insatiable. We
seek and experience the awesome pleasure of our bodies frequently. It is
nothing to be ashamed of. We are born with the pleasure of our external genitals,
so beautifully placed between our legs, and easy to access. All men—straight or
gay—know the sacred pleasure of having a penis. It is our shared experience, and our proof of manhood.
So to sum it up: As long as I’m a MAN, and the fact that I
also happen to love men on a deeper level, just makes me care even more about
Men. I’m going to end it on this:
Hey, MEN? You with the short hair, big arms and shoulders,
hairy legs and the stubble on your face? You’re Amazing! Has anyone told you
that lately? You’re smart. You’re fun. And you’re BEAUTIFUL. I love the way you
do the things you do! That way you smile, walk, laugh, and that manly way you
smell! You can do anything you set your mind to—you’re a MAN! Men are special.
Men make the world go ‘round.
Men are great.
